So I would make a bad parent because….?
Mother accused of attempting to murder her twin sons
Andrea Yates drowns her 5 children
A woman who claimed God ordered her to bash in the heads of her sons
Mother hangs children and self
Adoptive Father kills 4 children, wife and self
Father drowns his 3 children in hotel
……and I could go on with the list but this is already quite morbid enough. Now, when I search Google for children killed by same-sex couples or gay/lesbian parent I get ZIP, NADA, NOTHING. I get the stories about kid killed BECAUSE they were gay and even satire Gay Marriage Killed the Dinosaurs but, not a damned thing about a gay or lesbian parent/couple killing their children or adopted children.
It GALLS me every time I see crap like that first story in the news but I’m constantly (well not LITERALLY) reminded that, at least in Virginia, I’m not fit to be a parent because of my sexuality. Really? REALLY? …and the aforementioned folks WERE? Maybe there are no stories about gay/lesbian people killing their children because we have to fight so hard and jump through so many hoops to actually have the privilege of raising a child whereas most heterosexuals will pop them out after a night of drunken, clumsily love making (if you can call it that).
You have to have a license to hunt, drive, fish, or own a damn dog but any gene-pool reject with the appropriate “parts” can have a baby…..A HUMAN CHILD. I just don’t get it. I mean orphanages and foster homes are OVERFLOWING with the unwanted children heterosexuals seem to decide they no longer want as is evidence by the huge number of children dropped off in Nebraska under the Safe-Haven law or they have taken away from them because they (parents) either physically, emotionally, or sexually abuse the child(ren).
There have been many times I looked at the AdoptUSKids website to look at the faces of these unwanted children and wondered if I could do it, if I could be a good parent, despite what some ignorant asshat says. Especially when it comes to the ‘special needs’ kids, these are children who might be a little bit older; might have a sibling or two; might have mild to severe mental/physical challenges or just might be minority or mixed race children – aren’t they JUST as deserving of a home? Eh I suppose I could do it here in VA, you just cannot mention you are gay and Keith could not really do a second parent adoption – yeah…messed up isn’t it?
I guess I got started on this after
- Alex decided he didn’t want to come over because we told him he would have a bed time (hey, he’s what… 12…11PM is not unreasonable for a child’s bedtime, is it?) and he said that it wasn’t worth it to him. He also made sure that I would be a good parent…….just not for him but, that’s because he doesn’t like to have boundaries set – which I personally think children need (kinda like dogs).
- I saw the story about the woman in Henrico who attempted to poison her twins. I hope they take them away from her for good before she gets the chance to do permanent damage – not that ‘hey my mom tried to kill me’ isn’t damaging enough.
Maybe I will…I’ll adopt a nice child, do my best to raise it right, and hell he/she could still end up hating me….oh well, at least I will have tried.
Really sad to read those news. If I’m the one to adopt, I will make sure that I won’t do the same. I’ll raise the kid as if he/she is my own.
Yes it is sad. Some of them are a bit old but just snagged stories that stood out in my mind. I agree, I could never imagine doing something so heinous to a child. Having children (or raising them) is an incredible responsibility.
I didn’t realize that Virginia was still so backward.
I think that most of the evil in this world would go away if all children were wanted and loved. It doesn’t make sense that children are denied loving homes for reasons that have no rational basis.
Joanne and I have thought about adopting, too, but we don’t want to have to lie to qualify – and then it’s so scary to think that they could just take the child back… it’s just too scary a proposition. I know how you feel.